ABOUT

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Founder/Therapist (she/her/hers)

I have always been fascinated with the human drive for connection and belonging – whether to oneself, to our bodies, to each other, to the world, or reality. As well as the pain that erupts from a lack thereof. Research and therapy became avenues for me to deepen my interest in exploring what makes us human, and in doing so, help people nurture more self-acceptance. I am always in awe of people’s resiliency and capacity to grow.

Kathleen Oyama, EdS, LPC

As a licensed professional counselor, I have experience providing therapy, assessment, and crisis services across community mental health, inpatient, and outpatient settings. My last decade in the field has strengthened my belief in the possibility for the benefits of individual healing work to ripple out into communities, helping to foster a more trauma-conscious society. My perspective on healing isn’t just theoretical. It is shaped by my own humbling experiences in therapy, which remind me how essential it is to balance heavier internal work with a persistent nurturing of hope.

As a Japanese-American and LGBTQ+ affirming practitioner, I value inclusivity and providing identity-affirming care to all. Having navigated straddling different cultural contexts and identities growing up, I have a special heart for working with multiracial individuals. I want my clients to feel safe, supported, and empowered to take healing beyond the therapy space into every area of their lives.

I genuinely love being a therapist. I formed Nagomi Counseling out of a need for autonomy which allows me to protect and support the intentionality with which I practice. My clients are a constant source of inspiration and humility and I am grateful to be a part of their healing journeys!

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The fun stuff: My husband and I moved from Chicago to Colorado in 2017 following a deep calling to be closer to nature. I spend my leisure time hiking, camping, reading, practicing yoga, hanging with our two cats, traveling, enjoying live music, and deepening my relationships. I also love exploring and expressing myself through cooking. For me, it is an inherited passion and a beloved cultural practice of nurturing myself and loved ones. Favorite ingredients to play with lately: artichokes, mushrooms, and passionfruit!

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Licensed Professional Counselor #LPC.0017466, Colorado

Ed.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling (2014) Loyola University Chicago (Illinois)

B.S. Psychology (2011) University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign (Illinois)

Education & Credentials

My Approach to Therapy

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My approach is warm, authentic, holistic and collaborative. I believe therapy is a science and a craft, therefore I combine evidence-based techniques with individualized touches to ensure your time with me is both healing and productive. I work hard to be a trusted witness to anyone’s vulnerable unfolding and I am deeply mindful and respectful of this extraordinary responsibility.

I use a blend of person-centered, experiential, and mindfulness-based approaches, nervous system regulation, parts work (Internal Family Systems), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). I also synthesize Polyvagal Theory and Attachment Theory into my work. This is all to facilitate awareness, healing, wholeness, connection and whatever else is a part of your definition of wellness.

Clinical jargon aside — genuine curiosity is the key to deep connection and it is what energizes me to show up for my clients every day.

I also enjoy providing therapy to AAPI clients around ethnic, racial and cultural identity, acculturation, intergenerational trauma, and legacy burdens and heirlooms. I welcome people of every background and am passionate about advancing equity within therapeutic spaces and addressing how systems can influence the development of our identities and place limits on how we pursue a life of meaning and wholeness.

The therapy process is unique to each person. We will move at the pace that is right for you! Therapy requires persistent work and trust, but at the very least, I hope that each session you leave feeling witnessed, embraced, a little lighter, and a little less alone.

Never be a prisoner of your past. It was just a lesson, not a life sentence.
— Anonymous

All parts of you are welcome!

Mapping your system builds awareness and awareness shines light on where healing is needed so you can create positive shifts in your life. Click to expand how I view and work with each component.

  • Who we are when we’re surviving is not our whole identity. When we explore and accept the many parts of who we are are, even and especially the ones we may despise and work so hard to hide, we can help them work in harmony. We map out the systems of your inner world to help us recognize connections and blocks. We define the practices, environments, and relationships that bring you back to your true nature, like refreshments for the soul. With a clear map, we can build bridges to joy, restoration, connection, and a life of meaning, vitality and peace. With awareness comes freedom from unreleased patterns that no longer serve you.

  • Sometimes our souls need to recover from living a life prescribed by others; it can take time to clarify your voice, but it is one of the most worthwhile things you can do. We will nurture the kind, wise, calming internal voice that exists in all of us, often silenced by the relentless inner critic. You will learn to move towards what is true and life-giving for you. Rediscover the freedom to dream and design your life. What parts would you keep? What parts would you let go of? Your voice, heart, and values will guide us in defining your goals.

  • Regardless of what you face in life, you can remain in the driver’s seat. This doesn’t mean you strive to always be in control. In fact, we will practice many forms of letting go. This is about relaxing into who you are at this very moment, and trusting that is enough. Less emphasis on “doing,” more “being” and trusting your worth.

  • Psychological pain, trauma, and inner injuries can wound our brains, bodies, and nervous systems. Yet, our bodies contain an inner wisdom to heal and evolve. You will learn to tune into what it is teaching you, in fact, pleading for you to hear. To bring whole healing, we must address how pain and emotions are stored throughout the entire system. Given you’ve been at this all your life, we will explore your nervous system functioning and encourage healthy patterns of release, protection, connection, recovery, and growth.

    The power of embodied healing is that you have a felt sense of “revelations” that goes beyond intellectual understanding. We turn knowledge into practice, and practice into healthier being.

  • We slowly and gradually defuse the emotional charge of a trauma or injury each time we are able to revisit it in a safe space and connected state. We are not erasing or manipulating your memories. We are choosing to view them from a wiser and wider perspective today and diminish some of the triggering qualities while incorporating new learning. We weaken the power of them to haunt or wound us again and again. We can remember the pain without having to relive it every time. This enables us to reintegrate extreme experiences in a way that produces a feeling of resolution and wholeness.

  • I believe every person, no matter their experiences, deserves agency to choose what is best for themselves. I honor that we all have different visions of what healing and repair look like, often shaped by experience, environment, culture, and early exposures. Together, we will work on removing barriers to your pursuit of peace, which all beings deserve.

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A Note About Balance

It is common to feel a heaviness while starting therapy. Unpacking and processing the roots of pain, old patterns, injuries, and injustices can certainly feel this way and it is a valuable step towards healing. Holding this in awareness, each week we balance this by cultivating hope and clarity around how you want to move forward.

I may also introduce meditations and exercises to support you in awaking hopes and dreams, allowing you to feel their accessibility, as well as scan and see what may be standing in the way.

NAGOMI

Meaning: (和み) Nagomi is the Japanese philosophy of finding peace by creating balance. Related is the belief that opposing forces can coexist harmoniously, such as darkness and light, suffering and joy, loss and growth, and fear and courage.

The essence of this concept is peaceful or balanced connection between all parts of a whole. In relation to holistic healing, rather than focusing on one component of our health, we acknowledge the complex whole, as there are many elements that contribute to our wellbeing.

At Nagomi Counseling, we value wholeness and therefore practice embracing all parts of who we are. Instead of trying to deny or eradicate pain, entering into a tug of war with ourselves, we tend to these wounds and may even discover how they have made our lives richer and more substantial.

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